Episode 03: Your Rich Life: How and Why To Start Living It Now

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The One Day, Someday Loop

Most of us are walking around with a mental list:

• The trip we’ll take when things slow down.
• The slower mornings we’ll allow when we’re not in a launch.
• The dinner that doesn’t involve half our brain being somewhere else…

…The things we can have once we’re further along, once things feel more stable, once we’ve done enough.

It’s how we were taught reward works: you do the thing, you get the thing. Work hard enough, do enough things, and eventually you arrive somewhere safe and spacious and free.

The problem is that model isn’t real. And most of us already know this—we’ve watched it not happen—but we’re still running on it, still hopeful that our version will be the exception.

Here’s what I’ve seen over and over, in my own life and in the people I work with: someone has their biggest month. They land the client they’ve been chasing for years. Something really monumental happens. And they feel it for about a week—then there’s a new number, a new reason, a new one day, someday.

They don’t know how to actually receive or enjoy the ‘win’, and so they default back to the striving, pushing, doing norm.

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The Myth of Arriving At Your Rich Life

There’s a reason you can’t just cross a threshold and suddenly become the person who knows how to live the rich life you’ve been dreaming about—your nervous system. It doesn’t do: one day overworked and pressure-fueled, the next day relaxed and abundant and fully present for everything. That gap is too wide. The change is too fast. What feels like safety and freedom to your conscious mind registers as threat to your nervous system—because it’s unfamiliar, new, and unpracticed.

Think about the last time you went on vacation. You know that thing where it takes you two or three days to actually decompress? Where you’re supposedly relaxing but your brain won’t stop running the to-do list? That’s your nervous system taking time to catch up to where your body actually is, to let down, to realize it’s safe to exhale.

Now multiply that by trying to permanently shift into a completely different way of living and working. You can’t just decide your way there—you have to practice your way there.

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Richness Is Capacity, Not a Destination

Richness isn’t somewhere you arrive. It’s something you build capacity for—the same way you build capacity for anything else. If you want a nervous system that can actually receive, that can be present for the life you’re building, that doesn’t treat joy like something to be earned before it’s allowed—you have to practice that. Regularly. Before you feel like you’ve earned it.

What you’re building, one small act of receiving at a time, is evidence. Evidence that it’s safe. Evidence that you’re okay. Evidence that you can feel good and the world won’t end, or you won’t lose your edge, or you won’t crumble.

In time, that evidence accumulates and your capacity to allow good things, to feel good expands. And when the bigger things come—more resources, more choice, more of the life you’ve been building toward—you’ll actually be able to accept it.

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How to Start Living Your Rich Life This Week

You don’t need to overhaul your life. You need to find the nibble—the small, available bite of the rich life that’s already accessible to you right now. Ask yourself: what’s on my one day, someday list that I could have a version of this week? It can (and should!) be a small bite.

The slow morning for one day a week—not a whole sabbatical, but just one morning, blocked on the calendar, notifications off. The lunch that isn’t at your desk. The book you’ve been meaning to read that has nothing to do with your business. Whatever the thing is that you keep deferring, find the smallest real version of it and give it to yourself. Microdose richness.

Then notice what happens. Not just the experience itself, but what your brain does with it. Does it feel good? Scary? Uncomfortable? Does your mind immediately start negotiating you out of it or mentally calculating what you still have to do? That noticing is the practice—and an invitation to exhale, and practice holding the moment just a minute longer.

And if it’s hard—if you get there and you can’t settle, if the slow morning just makes you anxious—that’s not failure. Maybe today isn’t three hours of slow. Maybe today it’s 30 minutes or one chapter of a book. The, come back next week and practice it again—titrate into it.

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Reflection Prompts

1. What’s one thing that’s been on your “one day, someday” list that you’ve been putting off that you can actually take a small bite of now? This week?

2. When you imagine actually having the thing you keep putting off, what’s the first feeling that comes up? Excitement, discomfort, guilt, something else? What does that response tell you?

3. What would it mean to treat your life as something that’s happening now?